Thursday, September 1, 2011

Time to Get "Back To Normal"

I've come to the conclusion that it is not possible to "get back to normal" after a death of a close loved one. In fact, I don't think things can ever be the same. You learn so much from watching death happen. Most of all....that life is SUPER precious. Today is a gift. Tomorrow is not guaranteed.....so you better live today to its fullest. Get rid of the bad attitude, the "I wish"es or the "I want"s and just be content and enjoy what you already have. Life is far better than we give it credit for. When you watch death.....you realize how good life is.

These last few days we've been so busy getting Pat's things in order that I haven't really dealt with the reality of the situation. But today, after saying good-bye to my dear sister, Carol, and her husband.....who are returning to their home in Florida.....I can tell it is going to be a sad day. Now I'll be alone most of the day trying to catch up on everything that got neglected in the last week. And the pain of loss suddenly is overwhelming. :(

And might I add.....I do NOT like saying good-bye....

I decided it was time to get moving on the blog again. I'm gone all this coming weekend to my in-laws....so if I waited until we returned on Monday.....it will be a REALLY long time being away. Besides, my cookie-ing is therapy for me......so it feels good to do something I love.

I had a small order of birthday cookies to do this week. It was tough to get them done.....but it was the most normal thing I did this week. I'm glad I took the extra effort to do it. 

Back to princess cookies......they make me smile. :)

In my next post.....I'll show you how I created this carriage shape.


This is my favorite dress. 


Hopefully I'll be able to post tomorrow before I leave on a trip to Memphis for the holiday weekend.

Thanks everyone. You all are the best!

5 comments:

Anita1956 said...

Pam,
The death of a close loved one does, in my experience, change everything. I think I'm coming to realize when it's the death of a sibling it's all the more life-altering. Since childhood we have the awareness that one day our parents will get old and die and so a part of us is always prepared for that but seldom do we think about our brothers or sisters dying. The death of my brother 5 months ago has changed my life in a way nothing else ever has and created a "new normal." I continue to miss him everyday and at this point at least, the thought is almost always accompanied by tears...tears of sadness in missing him, tears of gratitude that he was my brother. And just like you said, if you allow it, life becomes all that much more precious.

I'm so sorry for your loss Pam, and will think of you and pray for you often in these coming days as you continue to grieve the absence of someone dear to you. I hope you find some bit of comfort in knowing how the simple thing you do here, in sharing your craft and gift for making cookies, is bringing more delight and joy into other people's days. I also hope you take healing in the act of creating with your hands and your heart...and of course, in the comfort of God's Spirit.

Cristin (Pinkie) said...

Glad you're back Pam and healing. That dress is beyond gorgeous! LOVE it!

Cookiecrazielady said...

Your comments really helped me, Anita. To be reminded that losing is sibling is not something we expect when we are 50 yrs old.....that helps a lot. This has really shaken my world. My sister has been ill and handicapped for several years.....but for her to be gone.....it's so hard. Harder than I thought it would be. Thanks so much for your kind words. :)

Tyler O said...

That first paragraph is one of the most inspiring life quotes I have ever read. I'm so sorry for your loss. But having faith in God makes everything better, especially tragedy. Stay strong!

Red50nails said...

Pam, I lost my sister 2 years ago and find it difficult still, today, to deal with it.  I was very, very close to my parents and devastated when they died, but losing my sister was like losing a piece of me. It will take time.  Find comfort knowing you are not alone and many people care about you.
Loretta

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